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Dr. Anthony Wolf - Books on Parenting
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I'd Listen to My Parents If They'd Just Shut Up: What to Say and Not Say When Parenting Teens

Harper, 2011

Is there any aspect of parenting more frustrating than when even the simplest conversation with your teenager quickly deteriorates into a take-no-prisoners war? Best selling author Anthony E. Wolf sympathizes, and in his new book he provides hope, humor, and practical tips for dealing with the everyday challenges of raising teens in the twenty-first century.

I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up will help you understand who your teenagers really are under all the attitude, and what new rules apply to successfully communicating in today’s constantly evolving world of the internet, electronics and social media. A book designed to make life with your teenage child a significantly more enjoyable experience. It offers specific scenarios to illustrate which responses will work and which ones are doomed to failure the next time your thirteen-to-nineteen- year-old refuses to listen or won’t take “no” for an answer.


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Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? : A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager
Farrar, Straus and Giroux 1991, revised edition 2002

Dr. Anthony E. Wolf's widely acclaimed guide for parents of teenagers has achieved best selling word of mouth popularity with currently over 500,000 copies in print. It is widely regarded as the best book for parents of teenagers that has come out in many years.

Editorial Reviews
This is a survival guide for parents who find themselves marooned among volatile and incomprehensible aliens on Planet Teen. Area maps cover the obvious ground - there are chapters on school, sex, suicide, and so on - but it's the title of Chapter 2, "What They Do and Why," that best captures the book's spirit and technique. Anthony Wolf's modus operandi is not so much to make pronouncements about what parents should do, as to explain adolescent behavior in a way that's bound to leave parents with a changed view of the plausible options. Wolf is a clinical psychologist, and his writing is clear - even witty - and he doesn't resort to jargon. The expository text is punctuated with snatches of illustrative dialogue, which serve as concrete examples and help parents learn how to see, anticipate, and avoid "bad strategies." (One key mistake is getting dragged into no-win conflicts instead of having the wisdom to shut up at the moment when shutting up would be most effective - albeit the least satisfying - thing to do.) There are also some nicely tongue-in-cheek samples of "ideal" communication - the stuff we imagine might get said if only we were better parents. After one such rosily cooperative and considerate interchange between a father and his adolescent son, Wolf offers the following two-edged comfort: "The above conversation has never happened. Never. Not in the whole history of the world." Message: Parenting adolescents is inherently difficult. Don't judge your efforts by otherworldly standards. --Richard Farr


Mom, Jason's Breathing on Me: The Solution to Sibling Bickering
Ballantine Books, September, 2003

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The Secret of Parenting : How to Be in Charge of Today's Kids - From Toddlers to Preteens - Without Threats or Punishment
Farrar, Straus and Giroux 2000

You can raise civilized children without ever using punishment!

Here is a method of parenting that works with today's kids, from toddlers to preteens, and is guaranteed to dramatically reduce the fussing that can take so much of the pleasure our of parenting - a method that uses no punishment.

Anthony E. Wolf presents a whole new way of looking at kid's behavior. His easy but surprisingly powerful technique offers specific solutions for all of the most difficult day-to-day problem areas of parenting: tantrums, backtalk, getting kids to bed at night, getting them off to school in the morning, sibling fighting, and much more.

Dr. Anthony E. Wolf's characteristic wit and empathy make the Secret of Parenting a pleasure to read. The lessons it contains, simply stated and based on extensive experience, will definitely bring the joy back to parenting.

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Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster? : A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce
Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1998,

Received a National Parenting Publications Gold Award and was chosen by Publisher’s Weekly and by CHILD Magazine as one of their best books of 1998.

Book Description
Definitive advice from the author of the bestselling "Get out of my life". Divorce, argues Anthony E. Wolf, does not have to do long-term damage to a child. In his groundbreaking new book, he shows parents how to steer children through the pain and the complex feelings engendered by divorce, feelings that, if not resolved, can create continuing problems for a child. Wolf also explains how to deal with the difficult issues that so frequently accompany a divorce. How do you tell your child about the divorce? How do you keep your children from being caught between you and your ex-partner? What do you do if that other parent gradually fades out of their lives? Or, how do you maintain strong ties with your children if you are not the primary custodial parent? How do you help them cope with new living arrangements, as well as stepparents or stepsiblings?

"Why did you have to get a divorce?" is filled with stories that parents will recognize with relief. Positive, at times even funny, and, above all, effective, this guide will speak directly to divorcing and divorced parents.

Editorial Reviews

Divorce does not have to inflict long-term damage on a child, writes Anthony E. Wolf in this hands-on, helpful guide for parenting through divorce. A practicing psychologist who has worked with children and adolescents for almost 30 years, Wolf is the author of the popular Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall?: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager. Here he tackles one of the most difficult aspects of divorce - talking about it. Caught unawares in a difficult emotional state, it's often hard for parents to know what to say. How do you break the news to your kids? How should you communicate, and what kind of reactions can you expect? And then what?

Through sample conversations, Wolf presents strategies for opening communication, keeping children out of the middle, and dealing with both the day-to-day complications and long-term effects of divorce. Wolf is taking a presumptive risk in scripting family encounters, but because he gives so many examples and because the advice is sensible, compassionate, and well-explained, he never seems didactic. Wolf's advice covers everything from helping your kids figure out what to tell their friends about the divorce, to what to say when your ex-spouse is uncooperative. He is a strong proponent of "quality time" (and his example of a two-minute "quality time" conversation is stunning in its simplicity and effectiveness). While every situation and conversation may not match your own, most divorced or divorcing parents will learn a great deal. --Ericka Lutz

From Booklist September 1, 1998
For children, the first question in the title of
Anthony E. Wolf's book means, "Why are you doing this to me?" He says, for the life they have known and taken for granted is gone. Nonetheless, Anthony E. Wolf asserts, children of divorce do not inevitably suffer damaged childhoods and unhappy adult lives. He draws liberally on case material to advise parents on how to break the news of divorce, react to their children's reactions, and help children move through pain, confusion, and anger to subsequently happy lives. He suggests practical strategies, with examples, for successfully negotiating such common issues as single parenting, a problematic other parent, putting the child in the middle of parental conflicts, and helping children handle life with divorced parents, difficult visits, and new persons entering the family. Ultimately, he reassures divorcing parents that being good parents whenever they are with their children is the key to giving children nice lives, despite divorce. Kathryn Carpenter


It's Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night! : A Guide to the Tougher Parts of Parenting
Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1991

Dr. Anthony E. Wolf focuses on the most challenging aspect of parenting - getting children to do what they don't want to do. He covers all the classic parenting problem areas, including family disputes, sibling fights, and divorce; and day-to-day issues such as bedtime, grumpiness and public tantrums. Positive and loving, this guide offers parents what they want most - more time to enjoy their children.

"By far the best advice book for parents of young children that I have ever read"
Louise Bates Ames, Associate Director Gesell Institute (Publisher of famous best selling age by age guides


I'll Be Home Before Midnight and I Won't Get Pregnant

This book of cartoon stories about adolescence was Dr. Anthony E. Wolf's first published book. Extremely funny and deeply loved by his relatives and the six other people who bought it, "I'll Be Home Before Midnight and I Won't Get Pregnant" has long been out of print. You can read an excerpt from it here and let us know if you'd like to see more.

"I couldn't stop laughing. So wise. So true."
Anthony E. Wolf's mother